tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6210913620206544383.post4652045748112588318..comments2023-09-08T02:39:21.112-07:00Comments on Jessica Snell's blog: Compromise Isn't Inherently EvilJessica Snellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17185831697537364088noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6210913620206544383.post-24090313744322117622012-04-04T07:09:40.903-07:002012-04-04T07:09:40.903-07:00I think he uses several definitions of "compr...I think he uses several definitions of "compromise". At first he says that compromise means making concessions. Then he says it means that both parties go away equally unhappy. Then he says it's not being who you are. Then he describes something he doesn't call compromise - a situation where conversation about thoughts, desires, and other information leads to a solution. This is compromise in the best sense of the term - not to mention the definition he provided from the dictionary. He takes the dictionary definition as implicating a bad outcome for both sides, but he also uses the same strategy as that outlined in the dictionary definition to explain what he thinks you ought to do. <br /><br />A more careful way to put his point would be something like: "When you and your spouse don't see eye to eye on a matter, don't just give in to avoid conflict. Don't give in and expect that you will get something in return. Instead, make sure you understand your spouse's reasoning and desires and that they understand your thoughts, feelings, and information on the matter. In a careful, respectful, reasonable exchange, you can come to an agreement that will ensure both sides are satisfied, which will build a strong marriage." This is true compromise.beccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17971500802414201404noreply@blogger.com